If more adults could realize
that they don't NEED love, or another PERSON to make their lives
complete, can you imagine all of the HEALTHY relationships we could have
in the world? This is what I've been trying to get
across to people. By feeling like you
desperately need to be in a relationship, you are changing or ignoring
parts of yourself to try and keep that relationship, and focusing all of
your energy on trying to get acceptance and being so preoccupied with
everyone else's opinion of you so that you can be what you think you
have to be to find love. What you end up with is a relationship built
on lies, and when the layers get peeled back on your facade, and the
other person realizes who you really are, the whole thing comes crashing
down.
On top of that, you spend so much time ignoring your own
feelings and opinions on things for the benefit of the relationship
itself, that you get angry and resentful at the other person, when you
can hardly blame them for not knowing that something is wrong when you
continuously make them think that nothing is. If we could all spend our
time learning who we are as individuals and learning how to survive as
individuals, when we do find relationships they would be healthy ones
with people who know us as we truly are.
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